Every person has their own “normal” way of making eye contact.  Some people barely look at you (they always seem to be busy looking at the ground or the sky or anything in between, just not your eyes). 

 The average teen begins wearing contacts at 13.

Some people will practically stare you down while making eye contact.  And then there are those that will stare you up and down like they have x-ray vision (do not date guys with “x-ray vision” even if they look like Tom Welling from “Smallville”).

 Tom Welling
“Clark Kent” in “Smallville”
Is 6’3” tall
Was born April 26, 1977 in New York, NY
Graduated high school in Okemos, MI
He was a professional model until his break as
“Rob Meltzer” in “Judging Amy”

Typically, a person will look at you for about 3 seconds, glance away and then look back again.  This looking and glancing eye dance will go on for the entire conversation.  It’s pretty normal for most people.  But, when a person is being deceptive, they will change the way they make eye contact with you.  So beware of the normal “glancer” who suddenly becomes a “starer” or a “cannot look you in the eye at all” person. 

Often, if someone is “tellin’ ya stories,” they will look you in the eye while they tell the story to appear earnest.  They will then look away…only to glance back to see if you’re buying their BS. 

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